Boundary Setting
Protect your peace and build healthier relationships
Understanding Boundaries
Boundaries are the limits you set to protect your physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing. They define what you're comfortable with and how you allow others to treat you. Healthy boundaries aren't about pushing people away—they're about creating relationships where you can show up authentically.
Many people struggle with boundaries because they never learned to set them, or they were taught that having needs is selfish. Therapy helps you understand why boundaries feel difficult, develop skills to set them, and navigate the discomfort that often comes with change.
- Emotional Boundaries - Protecting your feelings and emotional energy
- Physical Boundaries - Personal space, touch, physical needs
- Time Boundaries - How you spend your time and energy
- Relational Boundaries - What you will and won't accept in relationships
Signs You May Need Help with Boundaries
Boundary struggles show up in many ways. You might benefit from therapy if you're experiencing:
Saying yes when you want to say no, then feeling resentful
Feeling responsible for other people's emotions or problems
Guilt when you try to prioritize your own needs
Feeling drained, used, or taken advantage of
Difficulty in relationships with demanding or toxic people
Not knowing what you want or need in relationships
How We Help with Boundaries
Understanding Patterns
Explore why boundaries feel difficult for you
Communication Skills
Learn to express boundaries clearly and confidently
Managing Guilt
Work through the discomfort of setting limits
Ready to Set Healthier Boundaries?
You deserve relationships where your needs matter. Schedule a free consultation to learn how therapy can help.
Boundary Setting FAQs
Isn't setting boundaries selfish?
No! This is one of the biggest myths about boundaries. Setting boundaries is actually essential for healthy relationships. When you take care of your own needs, you show up as a better partner, friend, parent, and colleague. Boundaries prevent resentment and burnout.
What if people get angry when I set boundaries?
Some people may push back, especially if they're used to you not having boundaries. This doesn't mean you're wrong—it means the boundary was needed. Therapy helps you handle pushback and stay firm even when it's uncomfortable.
Why are boundaries so hard for me?
Often, difficulty with boundaries stems from childhood experiences, family dynamics, or past relationships. You may have learned that having needs is wrong or that your job is to keep others happy. Therapy helps you understand and change these patterns.
Can you help with boundaries in family relationships?
Yes! Family boundaries can be especially challenging. Whether you're dealing with family conflict, difficult parents, or toxic relatives, we help you develop strategies for protecting yourself while navigating complex family dynamics.
What about boundaries at work?
Work boundaries are crucial for preventing burnout. We help you learn to say no to unreasonable demands, protect your personal time, and advocate for yourself professionally.
Can DBT help with boundaries?
Yes! DBT skills include interpersonal effectiveness training, which teaches specific techniques for setting boundaries while maintaining relationships. It's especially helpful for people who tend to be passive or struggle with assertiveness.
Do you offer telehealth for boundary work?
Yes! We offer virtual therapy sessions throughout Arizona and Utah. We also offer in-person sessions at our Mesa, Arizona office.